Well, I've finally sort of settled into this whole online dating thing. I continue to laugh aloud at some of the messages I get, and I giggle my way through lots of profiles. So many funny guys.
The part of me that is fascinated by reality t.v. shows is also fascinated by all these men's online profiles. I love analyzing the way they market themselves, and the differences in the way Christians and non-Christians approach online dating and self presentation. I love analyzing the way the respective groups' online approaches compare to their in-person approaches to dating.
One thing is for sure: the social media age has made all of us our own best PR reps. ;)
I've been pleasantly surprised by the number of professing Christian men on this non-Christian dating site. There aren't tons of them, but there are enough that I'm chatting with a several interesting guys right now.
Interestingly, non-Christians seem to be much more inclined to ask me out for drinks in the first email, whereas Christians take a slower approach. I'm not quite sure why this is, but it's given me great fodder for speculation.
My most fun interaction thus far has been unexpected.
My first day online, I got an email from an intelligent, active, funny, successful man. Holla. I checked his profiled, didn't see any signs that he was a Christian, but figured I'd do my due diligence and write him anyway. Who knows but that he hadn't finished setting his profile up. Or something like that.
I told him I was looking to serve Jesus with someone, and asked if he'd be willing to share his thoughts on life with Jesus.
His response was thoughtful and earnest, but made it clear that, although he believed in God, he wasn't a follower of Jesus.
He said he couldn't understand how a good God could send people to hell, nor could he imagine that Jesus is truly the only way to the Father.
So I responded with a couple of sentences speaking to his objections. I told him I understood them, and had grappled with the same questions in the past. I also told him we wouldn't be romantically compatible, but that I loved digging into this stuff, and would be glad to dialogue with him about it online.
Hours later, he responded with a series of objections to and questions about Christianity. And we've been dialoging about them since then.
It's exciting and energizing whenever God lets us participate in the work his Spirit is doing in the lives of others, isn't it?! I'm loving this. So much good stuff coming out of this impulsive adventure already.
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